The Decline of the World of Warcraft Community

Back when World of Warcraft was first released it took the world by storm. Brand new MMO built on already extensive and fascinating lore. Many exciting challenges and interesting people.

While I have come across many good people who play WoW inside and outside of the game, I have noticed a decline in the general overall World Of Warcraft Community.

If you’re an alliance player, I am sure you already figured out Goldshire is the main dueling spot for the alliance faction. Some people request once and go away if you decline. Then there are those who take dueling too seriously. Some by spamming duel requests over and over. Some by trying to intimidate you to dueling by calling you names, making threats, and/or following you around.

Once when I declined a duel this one fellow took it upon himself to  /friend me (which anyone can do to anyone the regular way) so everytime I came on he would send a whisper calling me names, telling I’m I’m a p***y and a loser. He would keep saying I couldn’t handle a duel. He even took it upon himself to make a few false claims to his guild members to get them on me. Luckily he failed. He ended up being kicked from the guild. One time I saw a group of people from one guild stalk a player for telling one of their guild mates “No thank you. But maybe after I finish some quests.”.

One thing I have noticed alot more of is higher leveled players duel requesting those who are much lower than them. What are they trying to prove? All it does is make them look like bullies. It’s pathetic. Then there are lowbies that will duel request high level players again and again. This following link to a  post on the official WoW forums shows one player’s thoughts about it. http://us.battle.net/wow/en/forum/topic/3595575495?page=1#14

I have known people to encounter these types of people that will do such just for attention or one of many known reasons. Dueling has gone from a fun way to interact with the WoW community to a haven for bullying, by not just high leveled players, but lower leveled ones as well.

Raiding use to be fun. It would be a way to relax and enjoy the game by getting some of the best gear. Also a way to meet new people and forge lasting friendships. Over the years much of (not all) the WoW community has begun to take raiding more seriously. Rage fits over someone not showing, because of a wipe, or one of many other reasons. Stuff happens, GET OVER IT. There’s more to life than raiding. Kudos to those who prioritize real life first.

I remember once I read about this guild on Twitter. At first glance they looked great. So I thought why not go to their website and apply. I did. I was polite in my responses. One of the guild officers told me I had to (not asked) to be on vent by a certain time. I politely explained I don’t have or use vent, but did use Skype which was on my cellphone. I also mentioned I had bad hearing. In the game I was contacted. I was accused of being difficult, making no effort to cooperate. I politely explain that I was being upfront since people in general might be annoyed if I have to ask them to repeat. On their guild forums I mentioned what I was looking for. I mentioned I love to do dungeons and battlegrounds, but the moment I mentioned I had no interest in raiding I was treated differently. I was treated like I was nothing. I was harassed and made fun of in the game calling me a loser, telling me I don’t belong and  the classic “everyone who is anyone raids”. I withdrew my application. Next thing I know I am being trashed on Twitter. Lies are being told and spread around. Claims of me supposedly harassing and threatening that guild have been made. Since then it happens off and on, which is pathetic. They need to move on already. What really gets me is one person in that guild in particular puts on such a good false public front in several respects. One of them being autism research. So that means because she participates and does stuff for autism research it entitles her to mistreat people, cover her a**, and then turn around making it look like they are victimizing her? Seriously this person and that guild should get over themselves.

I once remember a post on the official World of Warcraft forums long time ago by a man that was raging over missing a raid because his wife kept asking him to take her to the hospital because she was in pain. Apparently her gall bladder became inflamed and almost burst. He referred to her as rude, inconsiderate, and nagging saying she should have had the courtesy to wait a few hours. One time my friend Melina got asked to join a guild in which they told her once the invite was sent and she accepts she is to fill out an application on the guild website with the following information: email address, mobile number, work hours, work number and agree to submit a work schedule to be approved each week by the guild master in which if not approved she would be asked to use a sick day. WOW! Now that’s taking it too seriously.

There’s those that will put raiding before their real life responsibilities. I notice it happening more and more since WoW first came out. People neglecting their families, their spouses to get in a raid and get that nice and “oh so awesome” piece of gear. But for what, to look cool to a bunch of people in some game… a bunch of pixels and bits chosen over a real person… PATHETIC

Another thing I noticed about the majority of the World of Warcraft community (not all), is the fact they use the game as a medium to hurt, harass, stalk, threaten, intimidate, and terrorize others while hiding behind a computer. They do this because in real life they know they can’t get away with it so they resort to it in a game.

For instance this one immature girl on Twitter thought it would be funny to trash me, lie about me, harass me, threaten me, and even have her guild members stalk me all because she failed miserably on a few things. One of them being the issue of ninja looting. She tried to through some old crappy half-a**ed page in my face saying “ninja looting is possible”. What she and all those she has trashed me to, have failed to do was realize and acknowledge their are so many flaws in the looting system. Also that the person who wrote that page had the loot changes from Burning Crusade and up in mind. While in many cases you can’t need on a gear type your class doesn’t mainly wear you can still need on gear with the wrong stats. There’s been Retribution/Protection paladins needing on gear meant for holy paladins. Some elemental/restoration have needed on mail gear meant for enhancement shamans. I did try to explain this and more to her politely, but she got rude and very snippy towards me. It doesn’t matter what I say or do, she and those close to her will trash and twist anything I say or do to make it look ugly. then turns it around to make it look like I am guilty of what she has accused me of. She fits alot of the bullying characteristics I blogged about awhile ago (http://starocean2087.wordpress.com/2012/11/27/bullying-a-growing-problem-and-concern/). Once in awhile she and her messed up friends still continue to trash me, make stuff up, and spread it around. An all new low is befriending people from that guild that mistreated me because I wasn’t interested in raiding at the time of application. Better yet much of them have taken it upon themselves in befriending those who work with Blizzard Entertainment (various CMs on twitter) and publically playing nice in hopes it will make her and her friends look like the victims. To her and them anyone who doesn’t share their mind set is either deemed  ”psycho”, “crazy ass”, a stalker, or “all the same person”. Unlike them I’ve moved on. But one of these days when they decide to trash me while I am saying nothing about them, it will only add up and they will look to be the fools. 4 words for them. “Grow up move on.”.

Bullying like I mentioned in the above paragraph is frequent in World of Warcraft. Sometimes even worse. There is only so much WoW GMs can do. Many people will do what they can to work around the rules and go out of their way to make people miserable for the stupidest of reasons.

1. Not passing on all loot.

2. Declining a duel.

3. Saying no to raiding.

4. Your opinion doesn’t match theres.

5. You chose not to do as you are ordered (not asked).

6. You need to go and have to miss a raid.

7. Winning a fair need roll.

8. Putting real life before a raid.

Literally the list is endless with reasons.

The majority of the WoW community keeps getting worse and worse. More and more of the WoW community rages over the stupidest things. Bullying runs rampant. Spouses and their children get neglected. Real life responsibilities get put aside. Here’s some examples of points I have been trying to make:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h-JY-vr6VEo Man neglects his wife and child to play WoW

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sdlfd35pBUE WoW Player threatens bullies

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kwql6_RJ348 WoW player heard on vent raging to his mother about WoW and wanting to finish something in the game. Being rude to a parent asking you to do something for people in a game that prioritize pixels and bits over life. Yep a real winner.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kYBZjl5pNx0 People taking dueling too seriously.

There’s alot more but I don’t feel like taking all day to post links.

I am in no way degrading all raiders or all WoW players. This blog is merely a statement of observation and experiences.

To those who put real life first before World of Warcraft I applaud you. To those who treat WoW and/or its raiding like a job/chore, GROW UP and understand this…

There is more to life than World of Warcraft. 

Bullying: A Growing Problem and Concern

When I went to school I have been bullied. I have also encountered it online as well on social sites and in various MMO (Massive Multiplayer Online) games. There’s quite a number of common characteristics among bullies today I have personally noticed.

1. “He/She/They  is/are psycho!“- This one occurs quite often among “EXes”. This is used to slandeer and “trash talk” the other. Often used to gain sympathy and avoid responsibility for their fault in a matter. Sometimes it gives a feeling of empowerment to the one being the bully.

2. “They’re all the same person.”- This is perhaps one of the most common things said by bullies I have ever heard. This is mostly said when there is usually 2 or more people defending the one they are bullying. Bullies don’t like to be called out on their own sins. So to make themselves feel better and in an attempt to look good to their own friends… this claim is used to give them a false confidence.Most bullies who use this will make this claim and this refer to their victim and those they know as individuals. If they’re all “the same person” then why at any point refer to them individually? Hmmm? Good question indeed. It only shows indication of their tactic to bully.

3. “U mad bro?” or “U mad.”- Not always used to bully, but commonly said by bullies to “rally the group” to their side by calling attention to them. This opens the door for the bully to say or do anything to get more people to assist him/her.

4. Accusing their victim of the very sins they are guilty of. Used to avoid feeling guilty or responsible for their own actions so they push their sins and faults off on to their victim by making them feel responsible and/or making it look like to others that their victim is responsible.

5. The classic trash talking. Fairly simple. Bad mouthing the one being bullied.

6. Participating in the spreading of rumors and/or trash talk. This makes the bullying worse. It’s used to also discredit the victim so the rumors and trash talk will appear to be more true. Also used to get more people involved to spread the bullies’ hate.

7. Twisting the truth. Twisted to whatever makes the bully himself/herself look like the victim instead.

8. Lying. Very common among bullies. They start out with a small lie to get the trash talk going . Then as time goes on the lies get bigger and juicier. Often times this is done gradually so it looks believable. Often done to discredit the victim so should they speak up, no one will listen.

9. “It’s no big deal. Quit whining.”. Said all to often to the one being bullied to further degrade them and make them feel like it’s their fault.

10. “He/She is just a kid. If you, an adult, feels bullied by a kid something is wrong with you.”. NOT TRUE! I’ve come across kids that will bully adults because many people in general seem to think that “adults can’t be bullied: and that adults who are bullied have obviously done something to deserve it. NEWS FLASH! They can. ANYONE can be bullied regardless of age.

11. “Are you 12?”. This is usually followed by an LOL or something the bully thinks is witty. This tactic is meant to get the person to respond in hopes they will rage upon them so they can turn the tables. Classic bully manipulation.

12. “It’s editted!”. Alot of the times bullies will demand to see proof. Much of the time they think the person won’t show it because they believe their victim is afraid to show their own humiliation. But on the off chance proof is shown, a claim of editting is made. The bully will say and do anything to get others to believe such.

13. Extreme vulgarity and/or racist and/or homophobic remarks. Some bullies will use extreme language when they harass/bully their victim. One of the reasons for this is either the victim will not produce proof due to vulgarity and if the image of proof was reported it would disappear quick due to the vulgarity. OR.. if shown then much of what is said would be blocked out.

14. Private messages of intimidation or threats. Some will send private messages being rude, nasty, and/or threatening. They will keep the majority of what they say private so anything said publicly will lean in their favor in their attempt to play the victim.

Bullying occurs for many reasons. Some reasons I have observed are:

1. Jealousy- the victim has something the bully wants and either can’t have or the victim got first through legitimate means.

2. Wants attention- The bully wants it. That’s obvious. To get it he/she might particpate with other bullies in discreditting their victim. Or just get a victim of their own.

There is NEVER a right or good reason to bully another. Those who bully often never think about how their bullying affects others. It sickens me how some bullies are actually proud of what they do; how they try to play the victim and make what they’re doing look justified… like it’s not even bullying.

If you are being being or see someone being bullied then SPEAK UP and do something about it because silence is not always golden.

Ninja Looting: A Primary Evil in World of Warcraft

Ninja looting has become a real problem in gaming. For those that think “It’s no big deal.”; think again. It IS a big deal. When you have an under-geared tank that keeps taking too much damage and/or dying, an under-geared healer that has a hard time doing his job, or an under-geared DPS whose DPS is low or just horrible just think… is someone ninja looting gear really not a big deal. WRONG. It is.

Ninja looting IS:

1. Needing on a non-gear item that the CURRENT toon you have in group can’t use for their professions. Like needing on a shadowgem when you have herbalism and inscription.

2. Needing on gear that is not your gear type. Like in World ofWarcraft Shammy’s should only be needing on leather up to level 40. After that they should start on mail pieces. Druids should onbly be needing on leather. Even if a cloth piece is better, SO WHAT. It’s not their gear type.

3. Needing on anything that pops up just because you are able. This is not only rude, but greedy. You could be cheating someone out of much needed gear or that transmog piece they’ve been hoping for for quite awhile.

4. Needing on a gear piece in which you already have BOA gear for in that slot. The whole purpose of BOA gear is so you don’t worry about gear for that slot until 80 or 85.

5. Needing on a gear piece in which you have already or have better than. This is just rude.

6. Clicking need because you want for disenchanting. That is what DISENCHANTING button is for. If it is not available than ASK in party chat if anyone minds that you need or if the item can be traded to you.

7. Needing on a gear piece that would benefit another class and/or spec more. If you’re a ret/healer pally then why need on a piece with dodge?

 

Ninja Looting IS NOT:

1. They ask in party chat if anyone minds that they need and why. Like for example: “Is it ok if I need for transmog?”

2. If they don’t say why they are needing but do when asked. 

3. If it was a mistake and they prove it by offering to trade the item to someone else. 

4. They need it to keep someone who wrongly needed on it from getting it and then trade it to the person who did truly need it.

5. If it’s for your off-spec and you speak up about it.

 

Ninja looting is also a form of bullying. Taking something just because you can or just because you feel like it with little consideration of others is what ninja looters do. It’s also what bullies do. Think about it.

 

Those who DEFEND or SUPPORT those who ninja loot with excuses are just as bad. Some examples:

1. “You don’t even wear cloth so STFU.”. Who cares if I or the person that speaks up doesn’t need the item. Ninja looting is rude and ANYONE has the right to speak up when someone ninja loots. Those who rage upon someone for doing the right thing by speaking up are only showing indication that they support ninja looting and they don’t like you outting what they support.

2. “It will drop again. So quit complaining.” Who cares if it drops again or not. This is just a pathetic excuse meant to divert attention because they’re mad the ninja looter got caught.

3. “U mad?”. A CLASSIC response given by those hoping to divert attention from the ninja looting action and encourage a mini-rage upon the person speaking up. This is meant to get people to bully and bother them. And is meant to discourage them from speaking up again and outting what the person supports and/or is… NINJA LOOTING.

4. “F*** you.”. Or some other flurry of curse worse. Typical of those caught ninja looting and those who arehaving their friends help ninja loot items for them.

5. “It’s no big deal.”. YES IT IS A VERY BIG DEAL! Ninja looting is why alot of under-geared tanks and heals do so poorly and why some people’s bad DPS is just…. BAD.

6. “It’s a lowbie dungeon.”. Again WHO CARES. Ninja looting is just rude. Those who don’t curb that bad havbit early on end up continuing later in levels when things won’t be as simple as a polite mention.

7. “I know I’m suppose to wear leather, but this cloth piece has better stats.”. AGAIN. Who cares. Stick to your gear type. Bad habits early on lead to bad habits later when things won’t be as simple as a polite mention.

8. “But the need button is available. If I am able to then it isn’t wrong according to Blizzard.”. No system is perfect. Every system has flaws. This is one of them. Just because the NEED button is available does not mean you should need on everything you are able to. It is rude and eventually your dungeon queue times will get longer and longer as more people put you on their ignore lists. A friend of mine named John, in California is one of those people. He’s learning the hard way not to ninja loot.

 

I will always speak up when a person ninja loots. I will do so politely by mentioning they didn’t need the item and it’s generally rude. Some people will rage when caught. Some people will go as far as creating toons on your server just to spam you and intimidate you into stop speaking up when someone ninja loots. That is a form of bullying. I will not stop doing the right thing by speaking up. If people don’t like me for it then oh well. It just shows what kind of person they are. The kind of person that has yet to learn a few basic courtesies.

 

If you want something you don’t need speak up and say why. Good people will understand. If people aren’t cool with it oh well. There is next time and they (good people) will appreciate the courtesy. If they’re cool with you needing then hey look a little courtesy goes a long way.

 

I’ll close this blog with this. A typical common phrase: Do unto others as you’d have others do unto you.

Low DPS Doesn’t Mean “Bad Player”

Many times when I group up in World of Warcraft, and when I have in other games, some people will RAGE about DPS. I understand good DPS is important to meet the goal of the instance or task at hand, but some people take it way too seriously. Some people even take it upon themselves to rage upon others if their DPS isn’t top notch; the best of the best.

 

A person’s DPS could be low for a number of reasons. Many people fail miserably at thinking of even one of them and just have a DPS rage fit.

1. Assisting in heals. Typically the healer prioritizes the tank for heals since he protects the group from damage and keeps control over the mobs. For instance if I notice multiple people getting low on health I will spot heal a little bit to insure survival of the group. My DPS is lower, but it helps the group (2-4 others) survive. My little DPS for the combined DPS of the group. Fair trade if you ask me.

2. Tank assisting. If my health is good, but the tank is taking too much damage someone could temporarily take all the damage to give the actually tank a chance to regain some health. Sometimes this can be what saves a group from a wipe.

3. Keeping adds busy. Running around keeping them distracted and occasionally using attacks to freeze or stop them in their tracks.

4. Providing group support. For example. If you’re a priest you can not only help with heals, but help with shielding other group members so they take less damage. Keeping the high DPS members alive for the group is more effective. Sacrifice your DPS for the overal DPS for the group. Fair trade.

5. Debuffing. Keeping the enemy debuffed.

6. Insuring more efficient battle. Rogue goes in and saps a mob that could otherwise wander and draw more aggro.

7. Fearing/Psychic Scream (for those with the glyph to keep mobs in place): This will save some damage on the tank and the group.

8. Crowd control: Nuff said.

 

Point is DPS can be low for a number of reasons. Yes it’s important, but raging over low DPS is not only pointless, but rather immature. Be helpful not hurtful. If you try to give someone pointers to improve their DPS, don’t approach them with an attitude. If you do then you can’t blame them for not listening. If you approach the person politely and they respond rudely then let them be. Then it’s on them. If you reply back rudely to their rudeness, you’re just stooping to their level.

 

As long as the overall DPS is alright, I’m fine. I don’t and I won’t ever rage about DPS. Games are meant to be fun, not treated like a 40 hour work week job. Point is enjoy the game. Be helpful, not hurtful. Be a good sport. Show understanding. Be the better person.

Moving on and doing good

I thought that moving on from the bad relationship I just got out of would be hard. To be honest it’s been anything but that. I thought perhaps there might be something wrong with me because I haven’t cried from this at all, but after talking with a few good friends I have come to realize I am alot stronger than I thought.

Some people have asked me how I’m doing and how I’m able to do so well in moving on. Simple. I’ve blocked him on Facebook and from any email accounts I use. I haven’t checked his CheaterVille profile after my FINAL reply to slanderous reply to it. I changed my cellphone number. I banned deleted him off my forums. I’ve put most of his character on IGNORE in World of Warcraft as well as much of his guild. What does all this show? It shows I am trying to move on. So if he tries to contact me or if he keeps talking about me, then what does it show about him?

I have started to play Star Ocean 4 The Last Hope again. It’s been awhile since I played it last. I now have Reimi, Faize, Lymle, Bacchus, Meracle in my party. When I first started again I stuck to Reimi then dabbled into playing each of the others. Mainly to earn battle trophies. But right now I am favoring Meracle. Atleast until I get Arumat. Now that is a prize to be had I’m saving all my good ATK based accessories and seeds for him. Once I get into higher levels and the content that comes AFTER I beat the game, he will need all the help he can get. Soon Sara is about to join my group so she gets the goodies that would help her be a more effective healer.

I’ve enjoyed some extra time with my cat. She’s appreciated every moment of it. I’ve sat on the couch reading with her in my lap. Rub her tummy as I read. She LOVED that. I’ve gotten her some new toys. I spent time playing with her. She absolutely loves the fuzzy mouse with the feathertail. Although I think the ball with the feathers on it is her personal favorite. The laser pen I got has been driving her nuts. I got a new blanket for my bed for her to lay on. She gets the left side that it’s on, but mostly she will sleep on me. On my back or on one of my legs.

I spent some time working on things to post on my humor page. They’re not posted yet, but will be.

I haven’t played much for the past week because of enjoying Star Ocean 4 The Last Hope and some other games. But when I have played it I have done some back to back battlegrounds. fun fun =)

Yesterday and today I’ve enjoyed AMC’s massive The Walking Dead marathon. I got a little behind when I went to bed earlier, but thank heavens for DVR. As I was about midway through season 2, I got a text from a friend of mine telling me that The Walking Dead Episode 4: Around Every Corner had already been out for 4 days. I put a halt to my little Walking Dead marathon and decided to play Walking Dead Episode 4. I played it all the way through. At the end of that episode my heart sank. I would say why, but alot of people haven’t played it yet. I don’t want to spoil it. One thing I thought was unusual was there as no preview for the next episode after I was done. With all the others, there had been. I guess all the fans are being kept in suspense.

I’m working on idea for humor pics for my Facebook humor page. I got some ideas, but don’t want to post new stuff if it’s only just a few. I do like to do my own stuff.

Tonight I thoroughly enjoyed the season 3 premiere of The Walking Dead. Lori was very pregnant. She was complaining to Hershel about Rick giving him the cold shoulder. I don’t blame him. After all when she thought Rick was dead, she took little to no time to mourn. It was heart breaking to see Hershel get bitten. Hopefully Rick cut off his leg in time so he doesn’t turn into a walker. I was very pleased to see Carol and Beth doing more. I was even more pleased to see Carl with a weapon. I doubt it was Lori’s choice to allow him to learn how to defend. All in all the episode tonight was great.

Tonight has been good. The last week has been good. After I fix something to eat, I’ll be playing some Star Ocean 4 The Last Hope.

The Nightmare of My Ex

My ex-boyfriend has become a complete nightmare. He is not taking the break up well.

 

Awhile after my “Dropping The Dead Weight” blog post he kept calling me and sent a flurry of texts.

http://tinyurl.com/8wlgzsq

He was likely hoping I would breakdown, blame myself (for his misdeeds) and apologize to him as well as beg for forgiveness to feed his ego. I told him I was blocking his number so any texts he sent I won’t be able to see.

 

To try and relax I laid down for a nap. I ended up waking up to 38 nasty messages from his friends. According to one I supposedly lead him to believe I would support him and owe it to him to help him out since he is having money issues. According to another friend I supposedly terrorized him. Hmm didn’t know breaking up with someone because THEY LIED and THEY CHEATED is terrorism. It took awhile, but I blocked them all and a few people close to them.

 

I have cleaned out my Facebook friendlist. I have changed my Facebook settings so only friends can contact. My “add a friend” settings are very strict. I have temporarily changed the URL to my forums. I have changed the settings on every Yahoo Group I have. All members must be approved. His email address has been blocked from my personal email and the email I use for bills..

 

Apparently I forgot about the 2nd profile he had on my friendlist. I got an extremely vulgar and threatening message. So extreme that if I posted a screenshot, I would end up blacking it all out. He went on about how I would get what’s coming to me and I would regret messing with him. It seems breaking up and refusing to put up with lying, cheating, and disrespect is a crime worthy of harassment, slander, and threats. Supposedly he is going to sue me for abandonment. To make a long story short he is hoping I will break down and BEG for forgiveness and offer to help him out money-wise so he will stop his bs. To some women that would be the answer, but that would merely be a short term solution. He would just come back for more and find some other way to terrorize and threaten me to get what he wants.

 

My ex will probably continue to spread lies and rumors about me. He will probably try to find ways to contact and intimidate me into responding and giving in. Most people handle break ups by remaining friends after a period of sadness then they move on. He’s making it easier for me to just move on. Why should I be sad or upset because I am no longer with someone who lies, cheats, and disrespects me?

 

He will likely continue to slander me and lie about me. Probably do and say things to get my attention, get me to respond, or get me to rage on him. I will say this right now. It won’t happen because after this blog post is made I will move on. I will go about my life as normal. I will wake up with a smile, watch tv, play a game, work on my writing, spend time with my cat. In a nutshell I’ll do what I enjoy doing, which certainly does not involve him. If he continues acting out this shows one thing. It shows how petty, spiteful, vindictive, and childish he is. Those who join on his band wagon of hate it just shows they are no different. If he continues while I am moving on, those with common sense will eventually see him for what he is.

 

Now… Moving on.

Dropping The Dead Weight

http://tinyurl.com/9dhj2ebI have been stressed lately, but suddenly I feel alot better. Perhaps it is because I FINALLY dumped my lying and cheating boyfriend.

He cheated on me in 2005. I broke it off and left. Recently (a few months ago) I was stupid enough to believe him when he said he still loved me and wanted to marry me. This was a few months ago. Not long after there were warning signs.

1. Blowing up over the simplest things.
2. Huge rage fits in text and private message when I asked about his flirting.
3. Always an excuse for the flirting with other women.
4. Lack of effort to say and/or do something about others flirting with him.
5. Meeting other women at motels. Would severely rage when I politely asked about it. If these were truly meetings with just friends he would have replied something like this, “Sweetheart it’s just a friend in town for a visit.”, but instead he would severely rage calling me all sorts of names. Now does a truly innocent man really act like that? and if it was truly a friendly meeting why would he have to meet them at hotel rooms he rented and not a coffee shop?
6. Asking me to make all the sacrifices: sell my house and move up to Iowa, get rid of my cat, shut up and deal with the flirting, shut up and learn to deal with him meetings friends at motels.
7. Privately in messages and texts would rage on me, never public. This is usually done by jerks so they can proclaim innocence later.

Like an idiot I kept telling myself, “He’s going through a rough time, trying to save money. He’s probably stressed.” and just shutting up and dealing with his rage fits. Even when I asked for honesty and respect I got raged on. It was always private, never public.

On August 5, 2012 I noticed this on his Facebook.
http://tinyurl.com/9dqrhj6
I tried to post a very nice I love you picture to his Facebook. He deleted it.Rages on me in a private message the next day. Then I asked him why he wouldn’t let me post a sweet I love you to him but yet he will flirt with other women so publically. I pointed out the above and then this gemstone I saw.
http://tinyurl.com/8jzv9xx
and
http://tinyurl.com/9x9najf
and this is how he replied to me.
http://tinyurl.com/8rvsgta

He got caught flirting and doing more and he accuses me of being controlling. Then he tries to make me think if I want him I’ll just move back in with him like THAT.

Days later on August 10 he got caught opening flirting AGAIN.
http://tinyurl.com/96d8qz5
I sent him a small message asking why he is willing to spend nearly $500 to see what he claims is only a friend but he can’t show his own girlfriend respect. We were on World of Warcraft at that time. He logged out and on Facebook he sent me a lovely message.
http://tinyurl.com/8vatty9

Considering his history of flirting and overreacting, I asked him shortly, briefly and politely if this one woman called him hun because she does for everyone like most waitresses do. He responded poorly.
http://tinyurl.com/9f2jw44
He could have said something like “Don’t worry she does that with everyone.”, but he didn’t. Instead he twisted things to try to get me to think I was over reacting.

Once he even pushed me to post some lame apology to him on Facebook basically saying I have no right to ask anything of him, that I’ll sell my house for him, get rid of a long time friendship for him, get rid of my cat, etc.
http://tinyurl.com/9w78ndp
I’m sure he will claim he never made me or pushed me. If he didn’t then why would he be so smug in his reply?

After I posted that I began to do alot of think from then up until now. Why am I with him? Why did I trust him so easily? Part of me did because I wanted to be the better person. I wanted to give him a chance to prove he wasn’t the lying cheater he was in 2005, but all these little behaviors have proved that he has not changed.

Not long after that post I get a random text for him

http://tinyurl.com/9dhj2eb
In this pic I expose him for lying. Notice how repetitive he is and in such a short time. That speaks volumes.

Last night I was talking to a good friend of mine (Keri) who helped me realized I deserved better and Charles obviously has not changed and likely wouldn’t. So just hours ago I tried to call him once, Tried texting. He wouldn’t answer, but yet he was posting on Facebook. So I was left with no other choice but to message him there. That failed. He has a nasty habit of not reading messages at times…So I was left with no other choice than to do a public wall post.
http://tinyurl.com/8ar8ubn
Long huh? Had to get through to him. I was left no choice but the public wall post. I tried other ways.

As I was watching a movie (today) he texted me. He sends one text. An hour later sends another mini-raging, I give a short but sweet reply. I screenshot it. I delete the text. Awhile later he sends a few others.
http://tinyurl.com/8sdv4gh
I get it.. I am psycho because I caught him lying, cheating, and got sick of his bs then dumped him. Well if I am a psycho for that then I am proud to be a psycho =)

Highly likely he will probably trash me to all his Facebook friends. I could care less. Why should I care if he does or not? If some people stop talking to me or rage on me I just see it as one less fake person in my life.

Anyway this has gone on long enough. I have a life to get to that doesn’t revolve around Charlie The Lying Cheat.